Thursday, 5 February 2015

Let Me Enlighten You

I feel like talking today about ending relationships in SL (Sorry,not sorry.)
If you just want the credits, please scroll to the bottom :)

I've been thinking about relationships in SL a lot lately.
People connect on a different level over the internet don't they. They tend to open themselves faster and more freely than they would do in RL as it is easier to write our thoughts than actually speak them.

Anyway. The point of my post is this.
You meet someone. Fall in love. But the problem with this reality is that there will always be someone else who will come along and intrigue you or your partner.
 No one is perfect, most come here due to something lacking in their RL. Be it sex, BDSM, companionship. Whatever the case, they came here seeking something.

Let me get right to my point or I will ramble all day here. 
You say you love someone here. Good, love them. 
But you meet someone else and love them too. Whatever you do...
 DO NOT RUN FROM YOUR RESPONSIBILITY! 

This can go one of three ways.

  1. You have lost the deep feelings you felt for your lover. In this case Man or Woman up. Have the talk. Remember how you once cared. Extend an ounce of humanity and finish what you started like an ADULT.
  2.  You still love them and the new person. There is such a thing as Polyamorous relationships and they can work with a LOT of effort and everyone being on the same page. The least you can do is give your lover the option to continue into this new chapter with you or not.
  3. You can be childish and void your relationship, all of it by just walking away or lying to them about your feelings. By void I mean every word you ever said is Null and void. You lose all honor and integrity (If you had any to begin with) You will leave your partner (Whom you professed to love.) abandoned, lost, afraid you've died, frightened, confused, sad, angry. Don't you want to be remembered well? 
Now you really want to choose # 1 or 2 here.

  I have lived in SL for almost 8 years now and have seen a lot of horrible things happen to my friends along the way.
Just stop and think a moment. Would you conduct yourself like this in real life? Would you just disappear? Lie through your teeth and hope you don't get caught to save face? No, not easily. So be a grown up and remember this might be Secondlife but ..

You are human. Act it!




When you get what you want in your struggle for self

And the world makes you king for a day
Just go to the mirror and look at yourself
And see what that man has to say.



For it isn't your father, or mother, or wife 
Whose judgment upon you must pass
The fellow whose verdict counts most in your life
Is the one staring back from the glass.



He’s the fellow to please – never mind all the rest
For he’s with you, clear to the end
And you've passed your most difficult, dangerous test
If the man in the glass is your friend.



You may fool the whole world down the pathway of years
And get pats on the back as you pass
But your final reward will be heartache and tears
If you've cheated the man in the glass. 
(my fave poem found here )

.Credits.


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